[TI] child and parent again

Tue Oct 6 00:00:35 CDT 2009

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Paul=2C Laura and Joe (and all who face the same)=2C
You are not alone. I'm going through the same thing with my parents. We jus=
t moved them to a higher level of care after over a year of practically beg=
ging.  Mom is wheelchair bound with a progressive neurological disorder and=
 needs full nursing care=2C but Dad insisted he could take care of her desp=
ite his ongoing heart problems (he's 88). We moved them two weeks ago (whic=
h is why I couldn't join you all in Denver) and it has been a huge relief k=
nowing they have nurses checking on them regularly. The place they're in ha=
s dual levels of care for couples=2C so Mom gets nursing home type care and=
 Dad gets assisted living=2C but they can stay together in their apartment.=
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They seem to be settling in to care okay=2C now. But they are sad that it h=
as come to this. They never had to deal with this with their parents (who d=
ied in their 50s and 60s more suddenly of heart attacks). Dad misses his in=
dependence and we miss communicating with Mom.=20
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Poor Mom is trapped inside her failing body=2C but still has a glimmer of h=
umor that she tries to get out through her whispered speech. She still trie=
s to make our Sicilian cookies and biscotti with us=2C even though her hand=
s can't quite work the dough anymore. But it is wonderful to see her face l=
ight up as she has her daughters and grandchildren around her in the kitche=
n.=20
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Corie
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> Date: Mon=2C 5 Oct 2009 05:33:22 -0500
> From: rngade57 at madisontelco.com
> To: terminiimerese at comunesofitaly.org
> Subject: Re: [TI] Updates=2C Pictures=2C etc
>
> Paul=2C
>
> First=2C I wasn't worried about your database subscription. I knew that
> you have your hands full with your parents.
>
> I can understand the problems with your parents. I am going through it
> for a second time. First time was with my ex's parents. Now with my
> own. It is not easy seeing them deteriorate like this. And yet=2C in my
> parents case=2C some of the problems could be prevented or at least kept
> in bay for a long time. But they choose not to do as the drs order. My
> dad has COPD=2C heart problems=2C high blood pressure=2C high cholesterol=
=2C and
> is diabetic. Mom has high blood pressure=2C diabetic (with shots)=2C
> severely overweight (more than 200 pounds over) and is on dialysis.
> Neither will follow a diet that would be good for them. Mom has started
> refusing to walk anywhere so of course=2C her legs get weaker=2C
> etc............It is a never ending vicious circle with the 2 of them
> and I get very discouraged at times. It is like I am the parent now
>
> Paul J. Caito wrote:
>> Hi Laura=2C
>>
>> I'm writing this after having spent the entire weekend in Batavia
>> after my dad became ill this weekend (vomiting=2C etc) and am nearing
>> ready to collapse into bed=2C but I checked the pictures of the reunion
>> and just wanted to say how pleased I was to see that you made cannolis
>> and used my filling recipe. I must say that it looks like the shells
>> came out beautifully - they looked perfectly browned in one of the
>> photos that I saw. As I looked at the filling in other photos I would
>> swear that it looked like filling that I made myself - I could almost
>> drool trying to taste it. I see that you were using a bag to pipe it
>> into the shells - I've never tried that as I always thought it was too
>> thick to do that with all the additives of citron=2C chocolate and
>> almonds=2C but now I'm thinking if the opening was large enough that
>> maybe that could be done. I usually use a butter knife to stuff the
>> filling into the cannolis. Anyway - it was really nice to see the
>> cannolis and it was really tough not to be there last week. It was
>> also nice to see so many people in the photos - thanks for putting
>> these up.
>>
>> This has been a rough summer with my parents and my sister and I have
>> been exhausted taking care of them. We're not sure how long this can
>> go on for before my dad will have to go into a nursing home or what.
>>
>> Really tired and have got to get to bed. Many thanks for all you
>> continue to do. My subscription to the certificate database is up
>> right around now although I haven't gotten a renewal yet=2C but I will
>> get a check out to you this week.
>>
>> My best=2C
>> Paul
>>
>> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Laura Johnson"
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>> To:=20
>> Sent: Sunday=2C October 04=2C 2009 10:13 PM
>> Subject: [TI] Updates=2C Pictures=2C etc
>>
>>
>>> After numerous problems here (including an hot water heater going
>>> out=2C finishing the construction work in the pantry and getting caught
>>> up from last weekend - grass cutting=2C laundry=2C etc)=2C I finally go=
t
>>> things online and updated
>>>
>>> 1. The Certificate Database was updated today. Separate email will
>>> follow with those details
>>>
>>> 2. 2010 Reunion is Salt Lake City=2C UT. I will be putting up the
>>> information regarding the hotel very soon.
>>>
>>> 3. Tony & Lynn Venafro have graciously offered to be our host and
>>> hostess for the 2013 Reunion in Knoxville=2C TN
>>>
>>> 4. The reunion pictures are now online.
>>> http://www.termini-imerese.org/Reunion/2009Denver/Denver00.htm
>>>
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